Girl code.
This unspoken oath between [best] friends that you aren't able to be with each others ex's.
So I'm not sure where this came from, who invented it, or why I know about it, but I do. And so far I have done good. But now things have changed. I'm at a cross roads.
So lets start at the beginning. I have a friend. We are pretty close. She's the type who has hella niggas in her phone. A guy that's supposedly hers and one that she still in love with and wants back. She also has a male best friend that she used to date and supposedly still has feelings for---which I find out after the fact.
Anyway. This friend and I have shared guys sexually before. And it's never been an issue. The guys, except one, has always been guys SHE was talkin to so clearly she didn't care.
So long story short, the best friend and I end up having sex. Then he ends up staying over. For days. In my apartment with me. Not her. And recently brought all his stuff to my room. We talk alot and just kick it and at this point we have both acknowledged we have feelings for the other. But I know that according to girl code I can't do shit about it. But just to double check, I ask her about it--this is when I learn that she has feelings---and I tell him and he says he already told her he ain't going there with her again.
So my question is wtf do I do. I mean if you ask me she is being selfish. She has hella guys. Is in love with one that she wanna marry, buuuut she tryna hold on to one that has feelings for me? Does that seem fair??
No it doesn't.
But it's like what can I do about it. Since I've had the conversation with her and then him again he has still be chillin in MY room. Not hers. He has told me again that he has feelings for me. We stil having sex.
I really wanna see if this can be something but do I really wanna risk my two year friendship for a guy?
Do I talk to her again and express my feelings about the situation or do I just leave it alone?
Do I just continue the sex and enjoy the time I have and then when he leaves forget about it??
Honestly that's not what I wanna do. I'm conflicted. I have always been the loyal type. To people I'm in a relationship with and to friends. But what about my feelings and what I need?
Does this make her a bad friend for keeping me away from something that could b something amazing for me. Or does it make me a bad friend for thinking that I could go that route with him??
I'm not sure.
So my other question is, does girl code really exist? Should it exist? Is there guy code? When is it okay to say fuck girl code and do something that has the potential to be the best thing ever for you?
Should I secretly continue to talk to him and then if I fall in love tell her how I feel. Or should I just let her know I'm gonna talk to him now?
I just don't know.
Any answers??
Sorry for the rant folks. Just some shit that's been on my chest
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