On prenuptial agreements. . .
Now before I begin i believe it is necessary for you to know what a prenupt is. According to merriam-webster dictionary a prenuptial agreement is "an agreement made by a couple before they marry concerning the ownership of their respective assets should the marriage fail". In some cases these prenupts include other binding rules regarding what happens if the marriage fails, including but not limited to: how the divorce will happen, what happens if someone cheats, what happens with the child(ren).
Now for my thoughts....
I was watching some silly netflix movie and the couple was about to get married. He converted to Judaism in order to earn her family's blessing and to appease them. They were in love. Then she shoves this large ass book looking thing in his face and says this is our prenupt....look it over.
BITCH WHAAAAAAAAAAT??! So lets just say I am confused. Like i have thought about a prenupt and seen several movies where they are used, but I was so taken aback and i still havent wrapped my thoughts on the subject. I can see both sides of this fucked up coin...thus we are here talking about it.
Before i go into my opinion about why they are ok and why they are not, keep in mind majority of people get prenupts to make sure that the money they have earned prior to this marriage is safe. Example: If i am rich because my dad left me all his money i would ask my husband to sign the preunpt so that if we divorce we only split the money we earned as a married couple and the money i already had will not be included. Disclaimer: this is my opinion and how i view the majority of prenupts. i could be wrong (duh)
SIDE 1: Do not do it
If you really loved this person why you even ask them to sign this. Preparing for the worse is like expecting it. If you all sign this prenupt then it is like waiting for the door to hit you on the way out. You should believe in your marriage enough to not find it necessary. Not to mention if you ask them to sign the prenupt isn't that just like admitting "hey i know you say you love me for me, but i think that you only want my money". A prenupt is like a just incase you are a gold-digger safety net. How do you go to the person you love and ask them to sign that? How do you convince the person you love to sign the prenupt that says in case you are a fuckin gold-digger, i still want all my money? i do not think you can.
SIDE 2: Do it
If yall are really in love and this is meant to last forever this dumb ass paper wont mean anything..right? If person a isn't after person b's money than person a will have no problem signing the paper. It is just a little bit of security. It is similar to couples liking to use "baby" and "honey" and other terms of endearment. You and anyone else of importance are well aware that you and this person are a couple but you use the terms to make you feel good, to make it known, to remind yourself that they care. People do shit everyday to make them feel a little more secure in their role, whether that is romantic role, educational, professional. What makes this any different? Not to mention this idea that whats mine is mine. If person a has a large inheritance or started some multimillion dollar company prior to marrying person b or even before meeting them, why does person b deserve half of it when they divorce. what did person b to help person a? Not a damn thing! It is only fair that what happened before the marriage is exactly the same if this marriage ends.
okayyyyyy so as you see i have arguments for both sides and I am sure I forgot a few of the ones that were in my head when i decided to write this, but thats all i got. I would love for my fellow #misfits to tune in and add to this. what do yall think. prenupts: good or bad? acceptable or unacceptable? would you ask your spouse to sign one? if your spouse asked you would you sign it?
lemme know your thoughts...even if they are as jumbled as mine
#misfit out fuckers
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