First off, it's been like a year since anyone has decided to grace this page and embrace there Misfit heritage.
Second, it's been almost 3 years since the very first #misfit post on this very topic. But, alas, I have returned to vent about my hair journey.
So, I had a baby girl. With a head full of hair and I decided there is no way in hell I'm combing both these heads. So, I loc'd up.
Almost a year later, I had the worse case of hair envy ever experienced in my life. Fellow #misfit, Carmen's hair was blossoming. Lava is transitioning. And all of a sudden I missed the struggle. I wanted to detangle, deep condition, CHANGE STYLES. And thus began the journey to detangle my locs. Now, if I had to do this again I would be a bald head heaux cuz it took me all of a month to get it all done. Hours of my Saturday's were taken just trying to get this done. Whole seasons of series were watched on Netflix while I got this done. AND I'M FINALLY FREE!!!!
But, here's why I'm really here. While loc'd up, I saw so many pictures of women with natural hair. And they were all gorgeous! But what bothered me is that they were only one type of woman with natural hair. The only kind that is accepted -- The Curly.
Enter my rant.
Now while I love a good curl and can appreciate another woman's curls, why does she have to be the epitome of natural beauty? I thought this movement was to embrace hair in it's natural form, not what kind of curl I could achieve with a shit ton of "natural" products.
As I've said before, I have the kinkiest of hair. And I FUGGIN LOVE IT! I don't need to be validated by mass media, but, damn, would it kill y'all to show a woman with hair like mine? Whose afro is true to the meaning and not curls teased to achieve the look? Coils in their on perfect perfection?
It's seems as though natural hair cannot be accepted unless it conforms somewhat to the all time pedestal holding white standard of beauty. Why does my natural have to...
Basically, what I'm trying to say is don't shit on my coils. Pure and simple. Because beyond the naturals that do get some coveted air time, in the natural community coils aren't appreciated for how awesome they are. There is so much pressure to "relax" your curls! And here I am thinking we are disowning the creamy crack, the RELAXER!!!
No! If you don't have naturally perfect curls or aren't working to achieve that you're natural ain't shit. And to that I say...
You wish you had coils like mine! You wish your hair would let you perfect the Mother Africa Afro! You wish your hair could loc as easily as mine! You wish your hair was as healthy as mine!
Tryna give me some bullshit bout how easily my ends break. Bish, I know how to properly detangle my natural. I've been doing this shit almost 18 years. The natural bandwagon you jumped on started YEARS later. I learned how to manage through straight up trial and error. You had your hand held through this struggle, with a fucking silver spoon in your mouth.
And you're not even all the way NATURAL with all those CHEMICALS and HEAT you putting in your hair. But I digress...
Misfit Out.
P.S. I still love CurlyNikki and KinkyComber is life!
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