....On Casual Sex
I usually like to include an introductory story or scenario with each adventure, but this one needs no introduction. Ladies and Gentlemen, we're going to talk about sex. No, this won't be about making love, or any other sensual synonym for sex. I'm talking about smashing, fu*king, banging, and all the other colorful ways our generation has managed to describe the act. We're all adults here, and many of you all reading this post have had sex before. For the select few of you that are still virgins...congratulations. Hopefully, something I express within this post will reinforce your viewpoint on this situation.
I am a Misfit, and I am TOTALLY AGAINST THE NOTION OF "CASUAL SEX." Aside from the perceived stigmas and labels that come along with it, I just don't agree with it. I mean, let's just be honest here. Do you really think it's okay to just have sex for fun? Wait, let me ask that question in a different manner. Do you think that it's okay to share yourself with someone you have minimal or no real feelings for? When you consider how serious the outcome(s) of having sex can be, wouldn't it be advantageous to protect your investment? Yes, if you didn't know, your mind, emotions, and body are all personal investments. Be smart about who you share your stock with. You can thank me later for that little self-esteem builder. Anyway, I know we live in a day and age where sex is all around us, but damn...are we...nvm. I'll save that question / statement for later in this post. You know, I truly understand that you and I may not share the same viewpoints on sex as each other, but I just want you to humor me for the next 3-7 minutes.
Casual -
Without definite or serious intention; careless or off-hand
Seeming or tending to be indifferent to what is happening; apathetic; unconcerned
Irregular; occasional
Considering the definitions above, does casual sex still sound appealing? Sure, there will always be things that we do for the fun of it, but I'm not 100% sure that sex should be one of them. To me, having casual sex is like an invitation to get your feelings hurt. We all want to pretend that the sex "didn't mean anything," until you find out that you were just one of the people he / she was smashing. Now, your indifference to the situation has changed, and you're wondering why you even let it go that far. These are the kinds of questions that I'd like to avoid. Speaking of questions, can I just ask why people have casual sex? Is it because: (A) They're seeking acceptance? (B) They're looking for love? (C) They're just bored? (D) They're afraid of commitment? (E) They're trying to fill a void left by someone else? (F) They're just that obsessed with sex? (G) Their friends are doing it? Really, please tell me why people do it. Oh yeah, I almost forgot. [From above] I know we live in a day and age where sex is all around us, but damn...are we that desperate to fit in? Are you so shallow that you're willing to lift your skirt, just to lift your spirits?
Oh, and we [men] aren't exempt from this rant. Having casual sex with several women doesn't make you cool. It makes you look desperate. What's the point of having multiple sex partners that you don't care about? Is this some foolish attempt to instill pride within yourself? You need to chill your low self-esteem having ass down. Note to self, the women you're sleeping with probably don't think that much of you anyway. If they did, one of them would've stepped up to the plate to make you an honest man. But no, they see how full of sh*t you truly are, and just give you a little pu**y to keep you thinking you're great. Trust me, they're secretly laughing at you behind your back. How's that for a confidence builder, dude? You as a man have to do better. Grow up. Man up. Calm down.
I know what you're probably thinking, "This dude has some nerve. He probably doesn't get any, and now he wants to try and tell me what I'm doing is wrong." Meh, there aren't enough fu*ks to go around for me to give a sh*t about what you think of me. What you decide to do with your investments is totally up to you. I've learned my lessons about what casual sex affords me, and I'm not for it anymore. When the satisfaction wears off, and you still feel alone, what progress have you made? Oh, and can casual sex lead to a relationship? Sure, it definitely can....but what happens when the sex stops? That same apathy you had for your casual partner will probably transfer into an apathy one of you will have for the relationship. I'll just leave that alone.
Look, by all means, do what you need to do. Just be safe and sensible about it. Be mindful of your self-worth, and just be careful. We don't need any additional hurt heauxs out here looking for attention....
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