Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Adventures of a College Educated Misfit Part 7

....On Marriage

Traditional logic has taught us to believe this story:

Billy and Amanda
Sitting in a Tree
K-I-S-S-I-N-G
First comes Love
Then comes Marriage
Then comes the baby in the baby carriage

However, modern times has evolved, well degraded our natural expectations to this fairy-tale:

Ja'Quan and Quita
Laying by a Tree
F-U-*-K-I-N-G
He comes first
Who needs Love
Now she's pregnant, but it's cool, because they'll eventually get married.....right?

Is the idea of marriage really just an afterthought these days? Has it merely become an obligation to expecting parents? What about a false sense of security for an insecure woman? How about a bargaining chip for a man with too many women? An opportunity to try and escape your slutty past? A method of winning? A sick joke? What happened to the days when saying "I do" wasn't followed my a mental subtweet "because I basically had to?"

Whatever the case is, it just seems like people are getting hitched for all the wrong reasons, and is why this misfit is having doubts about the future. I don't want to be married to someone because it was convenient, or because I want other people to be jealous of my happiness. I want the real thing, and sadly, society has brainwashed much of our generation. We're glued to the television to watch shows about "Wives" that aren't even married, but they're enjoying the perks of a marriage. Do we not see the irony in that show? Just to be fair, the shows I frequently watch also glorify the "shacking-up" life, so I, too, have taken a shot of the kool-aid.

When will we get back to wholesome love stories? You know, relationships built upon trust, not lust, emotion not slow-motion, dialogues not monologues? Love that conquers all, as opposed to love me or leave me ultimatums?

If and when I do present myself at that alter, understand that it will be because I'm deeply in love, not because I'm loyal. Not to fill a void, to please my family, or to compete with my peers. Fu*k y'all. What you eat won't make me sh*t. Marriage isn't for everyone. It's for the only one....well two.

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