....On Being Hurt
As we all know, and have probably experienced, there is a vicious cycle when it comes to finding love these days. Not familiar with it? Well let me build the scenario [I love doing these hypothetical situations]:
Susan, a beautiful woman with morals and respect seeks to find love. One afternoon, she meets Joe. Susan and Joe start dating, and become quite serious. However, Susan fails to realize that Joe is an ain't sh*t dude, and winds up being cheated on....six times. Now bitter and broken, Susan vows to get revenge, and when she meets Bobby, she does to him what Joe did to her. Subsequently, Bobby is now broken, and well, the cycle continues.
Sad, but true, this is all too common within today's society. We find it hard to trust anyone, simply because we fear the hidden agenda they might possess. We're worried that the feelings really aren't mutual, and that Cuffin Season has claimed us as a victim. So, we walk on egg-shells and will exit stage left at the first inkling of trouble in paradise....OR we lash out any anyone we think is trying to deceive us, operating on a "Imma get you before you get me" mindset. This is what I'd like to talk about....
I'm a misfit, and you hurt heauxs disgust me. For the record, I understand that both men and women fall into this category, because I, too, was once a hurt heaux. Anyway, yeah, you heauxs need to do better. While I understand that your past greatly influences your actions and reactions, you can't just assume that everyone is out to hurt you. Yes, it is wise to protect yourself, but in the process, you are only contributing to the cycle. Your insecurity and apprehension is merely creating more hurt in the world, and the unlucky victim now has to put the puzzle back together. Now, his or her newly broken ass is looking to redirect this frustration, and where does it go? Yep, that's right...to a new unsuspecting victim.
This has got to stop. We all have been hurt in the past, and honestly, we'll all be hurt again in the future. However, we cannot continue to let our fear dictate the future. If you hurt heauxs continue pushing people away, you'll never find love. You'll never achieve the comfort and security you're looking for, because you won't allow anyone to get close to you. Better yet, if you don't get a handle of your confidence and inner security, nobody will ever want you....unless they're on the upside of a cycle.
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