Adventures of a College Educated Misfit Part 9

….On Independent Women

I have the luxury and the privilege to be the only [registered] male contributor to the blog, specifically the Misfit series. It is truly a pleasure being associated with the talented women that share their thoughts and talents with the world through this medium. Additionally, I know that each of us understands that we ain’t sh*t. So, I fully expect them to respond to this Misfit rant.

Independent women….what the eff is your issue? Do you think that your ball-busting nature is attractive? Yes, you probably feel you deserve an Alpha male, but trust me….Alpha males don’t quite like Alpha females. You sit on this high-horse of expectations, and then get pissed when the person that best meets your expectations is the person you see in the mirror every morning. Lighten the eff up, and understand that the world doesn’t revolve around your rarely touched vagina.…

You know what? Let me clam down a bit. Before I dig deeper, let’s define what it means to be independent:

Independent:

1.  Not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion,conduct; thinking or acting for oneself
2. Not subject to another's authority or jurisdiction; autonomous; free.
3. Not influenced by the thought or action of others
4. Not contingent upon something else for existence, operation, etc.
5. Not relying on another or others for aid or support.

Taking note of the above definitions, how many of us can truly say that we’re independent? Honestly, you’d have to be a self-centered, arrogant, conceded, son of a bit*h to be “independent.” This, ladies, is why I frown upon independent women. For me, I strongly dislike women who believe that they don’t need anyone’s help. While I understand that confidence is important, how dare you disqualify someone because they might not be able to give you what you can’t already obtain? Bit*h, you were HIT the first 20 years of your life. Pump your brakes, and put the car in park.

What are you all so afraid of? I’ll never understand the struggles and obstacles women face every day in the fight for equality, but damn. I just want you all to relax a little. Yes, Black women rock. Yes, I am an avid supporter of all women, whether independent or not.Yes, in order to maintain a sense of power, it is necessary that you flex your muscles every once in a while….not every damn day. Hmph, and you all wonder why you can’t find love….

Here’s why I’m upset: I’m all for a woman being able to take care of herself. In fact, I’d prefer it if she could stand on her own two feet. However, I would like a woman that will let me be a man, you know? A woman that allows me the opportunity to treat her like the Queen she is. A woman that will make mistakes with me. A woman that will ask for my help when she needs it. A woman that doesn’t always need to be on top [when we sleep in bunk beds]. To go further, I’d like a woman to be willing to treat me like a King….and that’s the issue with independent women. They’re typically not willing to compromise or yield to anyone.

I’m a Misfit, and I don’t particularly care for this new breed of independent women. Quite the bold statement coming from a man that was raised and reared primarily by strong, independent women, right? Well, my distaste for these “I don’t need a ni**a for nothing” women is strongly rooted in the sense that everyone needs help sometimes. My Mother and Sister are both ULTRA independent, but not to the extent that these Yaki-wearing women are these days. Whether you’re independent or not, true strength and courage comes from the ability to admit that you need support. Don’t get me wrong, I know and love some strong, independent women. However, the glue that keeps their independence in tact: humility.

P.S.—This is all Beyonce’s fault. Just know that your role model is married and a mom…and still independent.